Sexual Alchemy
Welcome to The Deeper You Go, The Weirder It Gets. I'm your host, Garett Renon. So this episode is about sexual alchemy which is the practice of harnessing and transmuting sexual energy for spiritual, emotional, and personal growth. Sexual energy, a k a creation energy, is the most powerful energy in the universe. It is so powerful that it has the ability to create life.
Garett:And because of this potential, learning how to direct, control, and master this energy will give you the ability and opportunity to become more powerful than you could ever imagine. So quick note about this episode. I will be talking about sex and sexual acts, so listener listener discretion is advised. The intention is to keep it as clean as possible while also keeping it entertaining and informative. And so before we start, I have some announcements.
Garett:I'm starting a well, I've started a monthly newsletter. And in this newsletter, I will keep you up to date on what I have going on, particularly when and where I will be hosting sacred plant meditations. So to to subscribe to this newsletter, please send an email to ayumero@proton.me with the subject line I want in. And the email address will also be located in the show notes. And so something else going on is I wanted to let everyone know that my live my current living situation will possibly be changing soon.
Garett:So I'm reaching out to my community first. I'm looking for a small place to rent. That's the first choice. A place to park a trailer. That would be my second choice.
Garett:Or a room to rent, which would be my third choice. Ideally, the place would be somewhere in the greater Seattle area, but I'm open to other areas and other opportunities. So let me know what you got. Anyway, ideally, the place would have a space where I could conduct small ceremonies a couple times a month and also do personal training on a regular basis. So if you know of anything, let me know.
Garett:And if you've been enjoying the show, one of the easiest ways to do that is to get you some podcast gear. The link for the gear is in the show notes. I also have hats. I have new embroidered hats with the podcast logo. They're really cool.
Garett:You you can get them on the Gear website. You can get them on my Shopify store that has pine pollen. So check out those hats. They're really cool and which brings me to pine pollen Because pine pollen is needed now more than ever because testosterone in both men and women is at an all time low, thanks to pesticides, microplastics, tap water, and a sedentary lifestyle. And so the result of this epidemic of low testosterone is that most people are now overweight, unfocused, depressed, have minimal muscle mass, and almost zero sex drive.
Garett:Not to mention, the low testosterone is a major factor in why the masculine and feminine energies in our society are so out of whack and lacking harmony. So if you want to save yourself, save your relationship, and possibly even save the world, get you some pine pollen. My pine pollen is made with the best ingredients possible. Raw uncracked pine pollen harvested in the pristine Canadian wilderness and organic cane alcohol. It doesn't get any cleaner than that.
Garett:So the link to purchase the pine pollen can be found in the show notes. And lastly, at the very least, if you enjoy the podcast, please like it, share it, subscribe to it, and leave a review, especially if you're listening to this on the Apple Podcast app. That simple gesture really helps me out. Alright. So let's get into the episode.
Garett:Well, actually, before we start, I need to say one more thing. When it comes to this episode, I'm talking mainly about sex and sexual alchemy from a man's or masculine perspective. I'm doing this because I am a man, so the only perspective I have is from the masculine point of view. The feminine perspective is completely different. See, despite what some purple haired woke individual tells you, men and women are different.
Garett:Masculine and feminine energy are different. They operate at different ends of the spectrum. They are equal in strength but opposite in nature, like day and night or the sun and the moon. So I can only bring one perspective to the table. However, think about the yin and the yang.
Garett:They are separate energies that only become whole once they are combined. Likewise, the masculine can only reach its full potential in the presence of feminine energy and vice versa. In addition, strong healthy masculine energy brings out strong healthy feminine energy and vice versa. In other words, when masculine and feminine energy become harmonized, they complement each other and they lift each other up. So depending on which side of the spectrum you reside, understanding how the other side works makes the collective better and stronger.
Garett:So if you are a woman, if you have more feminine energy than masculine energy, this episode is just as much for you as it is for my male or masculine listeners. Okay. Now let's really get into it. So I'm just going to come out and say it. Busting a nut is overrated.
Garett:See, I promise to try to keep it clean and then the first sentence I speak I immediately break that promise. But it's true. Unless you are purposely trying to produce a child with your significant other, busting a nut or ejaculation if we want to be more PC is not all it's cracked up to be. And as we will soon learn, not only is it overrated, it will also significantly hold you back from becoming the best version of yourself which in turn will also hold your significant other back. Now don't get me wrong.
Garett:Ejaculation feels absolutely amazing, but I'm telling you the juice is not worth the squeeze. See, during sex, at least from a man's perspective, there comes a moment when the energy and the pleasure builds up so much and becomes so intense that you reach a point of no return. And once you reach this point, the pleasure keeps rising at a rapid pace until you can no longer contain it and you pop literally. And the moment you release, the moment you ejaculate, a wave of euphoria washes over you and you feel like a god. Your whole body starts vibrating at extremely high frequency and you feel everything.
Garett:You feel love, pleasure, relief, and peace all at the same time. In fact, there may be no better feeling in the world. So why then is this a bad thing? Well, because almost immediately after you release, the wave you are riding high on comes crashing to the ground extremely hard and fast. And you go from feeling like a god to feeling weak, worthless, and drained in just a matter of seconds.
Garett:And every guy knows this feeling. After you ejaculate, you immediately become tired, unmotivated, and passionless. All you want to do is lay down and be left alone. And God forbid the woman you are with wants to go another round because that's the last thing on your mind. Even if you want to, even if you are really attracted to her and really want to give her pleasure, the truth is you don't have the energy or the motivation to go another round.
Garett:This is why both men and women are terrified of premature ejaculation because everybody involved knows that once the man ejaculates, the party's over. Sure. You both may try to continue on for a few more mediocre moments, minutes, hoping things will return to their former glory. But deep down inside, we all know it's over. There's nothing left to do but clean up the mess, give it time, and hope the performance will be better next time.
Garett:And let's not forget that the entire ejaculation orgasm for a man lasts just a few seconds. From the moment you reach the point of no return to the release to the point of wanting to be left alone takes anywhere from thirty seconds to maybe two minutes max. It's kinda weird when you think about it because when it comes to the ejaculation orgasm, the pendulum swing of emotion and pleasure is extreme, which is why, as I stated earlier, that busting a nut is overrated because you are trading a few seconds of pleasure for a feeling that leaves you completely drained. And that drained feeling can last for days or even weeks. And when you think about it, that's not a fair trade off.
Garett:So then, what's a guy to do? Well, we will get into that later on. Right now, I want you to think back to the moments leading up to sex and even during sex itself. From a man's perspective, right before sex, you were charged up and revved up. You feel focused, energized, powerful, masculine, present, and even primal.
Garett:It's an amazing feeling. And while having sex, not only are you and your partner having a great time, you are also engaging in a sacred union which allows you to connect on a physical, mental, and spiritual level. Your energies merge and you become one and you become whole. And when this happens, you want to give pleasure just as much as you want to receive it. It's a beautiful thing.
Garett:And this is why we all love sex. But then, fast forward a couple minutes after ejaculation and everything is gone. All the passion, all the pleasure, the primal raw energy, the connection, the magic, it's all gone and you are left. And all you are left with is a feeling of emptiness and exhaustion. I mean, don't get me wrong, there can be a nice post sex feeling where you're able to enjoy the endorphin rush for a few minutes especially if the sex was really good.
Garett:But when you think about it, if you ejaculate, your world changes very quickly. As the old saying goes, the higher you go, the further you fall. See, one moment, you're on top of the world. The next moment, you find yourself in the depths of what science calls the refractory period. See, the refractory period, according to AI, refers to the recovery phase after orgasm during which it is physiologically impossible for males to have additional orgasms.
Garett:This phase begins immediately after ejaculation and can last from minutes to days, varying from person to person. Now I know there are guys out there that can get back up on that horse fairly quickly. However, with that being said, the subsequent the subsequent ejaculation orgasms become weaker and less fun each time. I mean, not to mention by round three, if you make it that far, sex starts feeling like a chore. You have to psych yourself up more and more for each round until it really just becomes an ego thing.
Garett:At this point, you were receiving almost zero enjoyment from the whole experience, and you were hoping that your woman taps out before you so you can stop with your manhood still in check. Anyway, it doesn't matter how many rounds you can go because the truth is each time you ejaculate, you have you have to pay a toll. And the more you ejaculate, the higher the cost. And to understand this, we have to look at sex through the lens of human evolution. See, the most primal urge in the universe is the urge to procreate, Not just in humans, but animals, insects, and even plants.
Garett:This is why birds do mating dances. Why rams ram each other. Why flowers are bright and colorful. And it's why both men and women are motivated to become better versions of themselves. See, the urge to procreate is so strong that it forces everything to level up to the best of their abilities so that they can attract a mate and procreate.
Garett:This is why sex feels so good and why ejaculation feels even better. Because nature is pushing us and even tempting us to procreate. In fact, the drive to attract a mate and procreate is so strong that science has a name for it. It's called sexual selection. See, sexual selection, according to AI, plays a critical role in shaping the evolution of various traits and behaviors and species.
Garett:It can lead to the development of elaborate physical characteristics, behaviors, or displays that enhance an individual's ability to attract mates or compete for them. These traits may not necessarily contribute to the survival but are favored because they increase reproductive success. And so there are two type there are two main types of sexual selection. You have intra sexual selection and you have inter sexual selection. So intra sexual selection occurs when members of the same sex compete with each other for access to mates.
Garett:This competition can involve physical combat, displays of strength, or other forms of competition to establish dominance and secure mating opportunities. Inter sexual selection involves individuals of one sex choosing mates based on specific traits or characteristics. These traits can include physical features, behaviors, or displays that are perceived as attractive by the choosing sex. The individuals with these preferred traits are more likely to be selected as mates and pass on their genes to the next generation. So the idea here is that sexual selection is the main driver and motivation for the behavior of both men and women.
Garett:For men, it's why we work out, strive to make more money, and learn new skills Because we are driven to become the best version of ourselves so that we can attract the best possible mate. Likewise, women do similar things like wear jewelry, makeup, dress sexy, and take care of their health so that they can also attract the best possible mate. So here's an example of how sexual selection plays out in our society today. So according to social scientists, women practice a form of sexual selection known as hypergamy when choosing a mate. Hypergamy refers to the practice of dating or marrying someone of a higher social or financial status to increase one's economic security and social mobility.
Garett:In other words, women want to marry or mate with the strongest, healthiest, smartest, most successful men they can in order to ensure the best possible future for themselves and their current or future offspring. And, really, who can blame them? I mean, who doesn't want to marry the best possible mate they can? Who doesn't want to marry up? And because women are hypergamous in nature, this forces men to compete with each other through intra sexual selection as discussed earlier.
Garett:See, women let the men compete, be it through sports, education, creative endeavors, or money making abilities. And based on the results of the competition, they then choose to per pursue the top performers in each field. In other words, women don't like losers. So hypergamy forces men to become better. But the sexual selection doesn't stop there.
Garett:At first, it is the women who choose. But hypergamy also pushes women to become better. Because because they practice hypergamy, this means that most women, like 60% of them, are competing with each other for the top 15 to 20% of men. So you remember, women want to marry up or mate up, which causes an imbalance. So initially, women have the choosing power.
Garett:But once it gets to the next level, it is the man who then has the ability to choose provided he is in the top 20%. And the higher the man gets, the more ability he has to choose. So a man who is in the top 5% has more options than he knows what to do with. So at this point, it now becomes the woman's job to compete with other women in order to attract a top tier man. And to do this, they must develop their feminine traits and qualities.
Garett:They must level up their stats and abilities so that they stand out from the crowd. So the point of all this is to say that sexual selection is a huge driver for both men and women. It drives us to be the best possible version of ourselves because no one wants to date, marry, or mate with a loser, Which means that the opposite is also true. If sexual selection didn't exist, if it were easy to find a top tier mate, then there would be no motivation to become better. Because the truth is, you have to put in work just to find a mediocre mate.
Garett:Now if you want a really good mate, you have to strive to become the best version of yourself possible. In other words, it takes hard work, It takes dedication and it takes sacrifice to become a person who is in high demand and valued by the opposite sex. But here's the good news. If you are in high demand, that means you have a lot going on for you. It means that you are most likely successful in other areas of your life.
Garett:It means you are strong, smart, healthy, financially sound, and resourceful, which are qualities that have no downside, which is why the refractory period matters. See, as mentioned earlier, after you ejaculate, you lose all motivation, passion, and drive. And this makes sense from an evolutionary standpoint. Remember, your main driver is to procreate. And once you ejaculate, your body thinks the mission is complete.
Garett:And because the mission is assumed to be complete, your primal urges will no longer push you to find a mate, which means that you are no longer being driven by sexual selection, which means that your main motivation for leveling up is now gone. See, a good analogy to this is rats in a maze. Studies have found that if you put a hungry rat in a maze with food at the end of the maze, the rat's brain goes into a mode of hyperfocus and super learning. It quickly maps out and memorizes the location of the food and and is able to navigate the maze quicker and quicker each time. But once the rat is given food, the super learning ability goes away and the the rat immediately loses its ability to navigate the maze with ease.
Garett:So after ejaculation, your mind and body switches your your mind and body switches modes and it transitions from finding a mate to settling down to begin the process of raising a family. In other words, you are a rat that has found its food. See, our bodies are both extremely smart and very primitive. And from a primal standpoint, our mind, body, and soul doesn't know the difference between ejaculating in your partner to start a family or ejaculating into a one night stand or your sock. Alright?
Garett:All it knows is that you ejaculated and from a primal standpoint, the mission has been accomplished. Another reason the refractory period matters and is something that AI didn't mention is that semen is very expensive biologically, metabolically, and energetically as it contains all the necessary components to create life. This is why you get so tired after you ejaculate because you are literally releasing part of your life force. See, when you ejaculate, you get hit with a double whammy because not only are you losing part of your life force, but you then also have to replenish what you just lost, which puts you into a big energetic deficit that can take weeks to even months to fully recover, which means that for which means for that time, you are operating at a suboptimal level. I mean, think about it.
Garett:Your energies are not drawn from an infinite source. They are limited and must be shared with all biological functions that require energy. This means trade offs and sacrifices must and will occur. So each time you ejaculate, not only are you losing vital energy, you you are also sacrificing other highly energetic areas such as brain function, muscle growth, testosterone production, and even spiritual development. Not to mention, you only have so much life force to give.
Garett:Sure, over time, you are able to replenish most of your life force, but not all of it. Eventually, our life force will run out. This is called aging and eventually death. So a major problem with unnecessary ejaculation is that you are needlessly wasting your life force which speeds up your aging process. In other words, if you waste your life force on porn, masturbation, or casual sex, everything else in your life suffers.
Garett:You will have less motivation for business, self development, or even attracting a top tier mate. You will also be weaker physically, mentally, and spiritually. And this is because after you ejaculate, you are in a state of recovery. And when you are in a state of recovery, it is impossible to grow. It is impossible to flourish.
Garett:So if we're not supposed to ejaculate, what are we supposed to do? Well, what you want and what you are striving for is to have your cake and eat it too. Let's go back to the rat analogy. See, what if there was a way that the rat could eat its food while also maintaining his super learning ability? Well, that's what sexual alchemy is all about.
Garett:It allows you to have sex while also keeping your energy, motivation, and drive intact. And then it takes it a step further by allowing you to transform your sexual energy and then use it for self enhancement. And to do this, you must learn how to have sex without ejaculating. And believe me, it is possible but you have to be willing to do the work. There are different techniques on how to do this but it all comes down to learning how to stay relaxed while also learning how to circulate the sexual energy throughout your body.
Garett:And if you can do this, I will tell you that the sexual experience becomes a thousand times better for everyone involved. Once you learn how to master your own sexual energy and harmonize with the sexual energy of your partner, you will discover a whole new world. A world where you can last all night. A world where you are able to go round after round with each round becoming more intense and more pleasurable than the last. You will also discover that you're able to connect with your woman on a deep spiritual and emotional level that is just not possible with the traditional sex that most people have which in turn makes the sex better and better each and every time.
Garett:And the best part is once you are done, you feel amazing. There is no crash. In fact, not only is there no crash but you feel energized, focused, and present present once you are done. And the best part is you get to keep your edge, meaning there is no refractory period. Sure, if you did your job, you will be tired, but it's a different type of tired.
Garett:You are not tired because you depleted your life force. You are tired because you put in hard work. And that's a big difference. And that's just the beginning because the main benefit of non ejaculatory sex is the ability to practice sexual alchemy. And to understand sexual alchemy, you have to remember that energy is neither created nor destroyed.
Garett:It just transforms. So when you have sex, as long as you don't ejaculate, you not only get to keep all of your life force, you also get to take that sexual energy that has been built up from the union of the masculine and the feminine and use it to enhance and upgrade your life. Not just your life, but your partner's life as well. See, when masculine and feminine energy come together, they complement each other. They lift each other up and they make each other better.
Garett:Remember, these sexual energies have the potential to create life, which means unless you are trying to start a family, the idea is is that you take this sexual energy, you take this creation force and you transmute it using it to expand your consciousness, to fuel your mind, to enhance your intuition and to improve your creative abilities. And this is real. The idea of sexual alchemy is discussed in just about every ancient culture and religious text on the planet. The Hindus, the Taoists, the Buddhists, the ancient Egyptians, ancient Mesopotamia, the ancient Greeks, and Mesoamerican cultures all talk about the importance of controlling and harnessing your sexual energy. Of course, just like everything else, this information has been hidden and suppressed from us.
Garett:And that's right. Just like there is a war on health, a war on nature, there is also a war on sex. See, in our current society, they want us to abuse sex. They want us to waste our life force. They want men to watch porn, and they want they want and encourage women to make porn.
Garett:OnlyFans, anyone? And because of this, the masculine and feminine are no longer in harmony. And as a result, we are weaker, sicker, less motivated, and more disconnected than ever. See, right now, we are losing this battle. But there is still a chance we can win this war.
Garett:But you have to be willing to take your power back. You have to treat sex and sexual energy with the respect it deserves. We have to understand that sex is a sacred act designed for procreation. Now this procreation can either be in the form of a child or it can be in the form of ideas, thoughts, and creativity. So once you learn how to transmute your sexual energy, the sky's the limit.
Garett:But here's the thing, this only works with someone you care about and are connected with. Sexual alchemy doesn't work with the floozy you met at the bar. So with all that being said, I'm going to leave you with a few quotes from the book Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. And so this is one of the most famous books on self development, and it talks about the importance of sexual alchemy numerous times. In fact, there's an entire chapter dedicated to the art of sexual transmutation.
Garett:So in the book, Napoleon Hill argues that those who have mastered the ability to transmute their sexual energy are often the most successful and accomplished individuals. He cites many great leaders and achievers who are able to channel their sexual energy in this way. So some of the best quotes for the book. So I'll read you the first one. Sex energy is the creative energy of all geniuses.
Garett:There never has been and never will be a great leader, builder, or artist lacking in the driving force of sex. Another quote, the individual of greatest achievements the individual of greatest achievement tend to be those who have highly developed sexual natures and who have learned the art of sexual transmutation. And and finally the last one, sex desire is the most powerful of human desires. When driven by this desire, men develop keenness of imagination, courage, willpower, persistence, and a creative ability unknown to them at other times. So there you go.
Garett:Sexual energy is the most powerful energy in the universe. So if you want to save yourself, save your relationship, and possibly even save the world, you must learn how to control, master, and transmute your sexual energy. See you on the other side.